When we’re little, most of us have an idea of what our wedding will be like. The white dress, the prince charming – it’s a fairy tale day come true! Of course, this is the end goal here, but now that we’ve grown up and begun the whole process, we know that everything doesn’t just happen for our wedding day; someone has to do all the planning and do it right. The someone(s) in question (unless you have a fantastic wedding planner) is usually the couple of the hour.
The idea that this is a once-in-a-lifetime event puts a whole lot of pressure on it to be perfect. There is no next time, no do-overs. The pressure is real and understandable. However, with all the stress, the appointments, the decision making, and the seemingly endless worrying about every aspect of your wedding day coming together without a hitch, there can be less attention paid to the person who this is all for – your spouse-to-be.
Wedding planning can occasionally be a catalyst for the death of romance in a budding relationship and a long-established one, alike; but it doesn’t have to be. Here are a few ways to avoid this and keep the whole wedding-planning process fun, exciting, and just one more way to bring the two of you even closer.
Designate time when wedding planning discussions are not allowed. It’s easy to let the wedding dominate every conversation you’re having. It’s on your mind all day and who better to blab to than the person you’re teaming up with on this? This can become incredibly daunting, and we’re not saying you’re being a Bridezilla (or Groomzilla), but eventually one or both of you is going to be too exhausted to talk about your centerpieces or bridesmaid dresses. The same rules we can recall with mobile phones (not at dinner, not after 9pm, not at church, etc.) can apply here – whatever times work best for you two to just enjoy each other’s company and wedding-speak.
Plan your romance. You may be thinking that this seems contradictory to the romance that spontaneity brings about, but we’re grown/growing up. Simply put, life is busy. If we waited around for a spontaneous moment to arise, we might be waiting for weeks, months, a year! We actually have to make plans to make plans (wedding planning), so I think for anyone reading this blog, you are fully aware of the value and importance of planning. Planning ensures that things get done — your romantic life is no different! In this busy time in your life, plan a night to get away from all the stress. Whether it’s a movie night, coffee date, going out for drinks and laughs, or just planning on cooking dinner together, we want you to let the sparks fly again! We’re sure you can take it from there.
Embrace the element of surprise. When someone isn’t expecting something to happen, you better bet they’re going to remember it that much more. Not only that, but a surprise really affects a person. This surprise can be in the form of a kind gesture, releasing a stressful duty from your significant other (calling the caterer, running errands, cooking dinner), giving a thoughtful gift, or planning a night for the two of you to get away for an activity you both enjoy like hiking for the weekend. An unexpected surprise is going to relieve stress, bring you closer together, and help your significant other understand why they fell in love with you in the first place.
Throughout this entire process, it’s extremely important to be mindful of your significant other and of your relationship in general. It’s easy to get carried away with wedding planning process, but don’t let the wedding planning stress kill your relationship! After all, without a bride and groom, there can’t be a wedding, can there? Happy planning, lovebirds!